Being a young 20 year-old mother and expecting our first child, I was excited about the potentials of what being a mother was going to be like. We had fun knowing that we were expecting a little girl, and we started choosing out things that the babies room was going to be like. We picked out the crib, , clothes, shoes, etc.
We went to the prenatal classes, where, we learned about the stages of labor, babies development during pregnancy, strategies to relieve pain, etc. and were just so delighted from the friends that we made there. We were also impressed about how well the educator knew, and what ideas and impressions that she made as we were learning about becoming parents.
As our pregnancy went along, we were asked the question whether or not we wanted an done to test for , spinabifida,etc. Thinking nothing of it, I said I didn't want them sticking a needle in by belly, and that I would love the child regardless.
I went into labor on a Sunday afternoon at 2 p.m., and it being our first pregnancy, didn't know that I was in labor. After being in pain for so long, I told my husband Justin that I wanted to go to the womens center at the hospital that I would have the baby at and get checked out. When I got there, they stated that I was dialated to a 6, and that the baby was currently in the rib cage and I couldn't breathe!) and that we had only a few minutes to get her out because she was starting to breath wrong and that she could start going into stress. They did an emergency C-section and had her out within 7-10 minutes. (I know this because her head was right under my
When Heidi came out, she was so beautiful. I saw my husband hold her for the first time and she looked so frail and breakable in his strong muscular arms.
They whisked her away because she wasn't getting enough oxygen. (She needed oxygen the first two weeks of her life.) They never took her to the NICU, but had her under constant watch and care.
A few minutes after her being born, (I was being stitched up), the social worker came in and requested that she talk to us. At first I was alarmed. What could she possibly want to tell us about our baby? What was wrong with the baby? A lot of thoughts ran through my head all at once. Thinking the worst, I didn't know what to expect. I first thought that my tiny daughter, who weighed 5 lbs. 15 oz. and who was 20 inces long had stopped breathing.
We were both told at the same time that she was showing signs of having Down syndrome. At first I was shocked at the idea, but having a cousin with Down syndrome lessened my fears because I had been exposed to it a little throughout my life. What I was worried about was what my husband was thinking. I have to say that the emotions the first two weeks of having our beautiful daughter was unexplainable, even so that I cannot write it down on paper.
At first I thought that I had done something wrong. I was wrong. I thought it also very strange that I was so young to have a baby with Down syndrome. I mean....didn't that only happen to women who had babies when they were a little bit older? Apparently not.
Justin and I went to genetic counselors, where we learned the genetics and what had happened during the development of our daughter when the genes were split.
We were introduced to and the Social Security Administration, and the Disability Services. All of these things came available to our daughter, who at first, I thought I didn't know how to help.
But through loving family members and friends, we were loved and we knew that our daughter was loved. We have been through so much with our daughter Heidi.
Heidi had surgery at in where she had three holes in her heart which were repaired through open heart surgery, a PDO, PDA, and VSD. She still has mild pulmonary hypertension, and we take her in every year to make sure that everything is okay. She had double aspirating pneumonia for sixteen days in March and April 2008 and shortly while we where there she was diagnosed with dysphagia, a swallowing disorder in which she cannot swallow regular thin liquids like regular milk or juices. We thicken her liquids as part of her special diet.
Heidi has brought so much love and affection to our family. She also has brought us great joy, insight, and peace into our lives.
You can learn more about our family by visiting www.justinandkaren.blogspot.com